Moral Letters to Lucilius Section 1

Epistulam, quam scripsi Marullo, cum filium parvulum amisisset et diceretur molliter ferre, misi tibi, in qua non sum solitum morem secutus nec putavi leniter illum debere tractari, cum obiurgatione esset quam solacio dignior. Adflicto enim et magnum vulnus male fcrenti paulisper cedendum est; exsatiet se aut certe primum impetum effundat; hi, qui sibi lugere sumpserunt, protinus castigentur et discant quasdam etiam lacrimarum ineptias esse.

Je t’envoie la lettre que j’écrivis à Marullus quand il perdit son tout jeune fils, et qu’on m’apprit qu’il supportait cette perte avec peu de fermeté. Je n’y ai pas suivi l’usage ordinaire,
et n’ai point cru devoir traiter mollement un homme plus digne de réprimande que de consolation. Pour une âme abattue et qui supporte impatiemment une blessure profonde, il faut quelque peu d’indulgence :

I enclose a copy of the letter which I wrote to Marullus at the time when he had lost his little son and was reported to be rather womanish in his grief - a letter in which I have not observed the usual form of condolence: for I did not believe that he should be handled gently, since in my opinion he deserved criticism rather than consolation. When a man is stricken and is finding it most difficult to endure a grievous wound, one must humour him for a while; let him satisfy his grief or at any rate work off the first shock;